25 Things We Should Say To Our Children Everyday

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My mom sent over this article from Red Tricycle the other day.  Usually she'll email me the latest clippings of local murders, man-who-falls-overboard-for-taking-risky-instagram-photo or some new finding on why parents today suck and can't have it all.  "Adrianna, your generation thinks you can just go to work all day and have nannies raise your children.  What kind of success are you setting them up for?  Don't be surprised if you end up with a wild partier on your hand who loves bad boys and refuses to follow rules."  Oh, you mean me???  Wait, Weren't you a stay-at-home mom??  Ok right, just checking"  

Anywhooooo so when I came upon this link she sent over I was pleasantly surprised because it felt like such a departure for her.  Red Tri does a stellar job of breaking down the 25 Things We Should Say To Our Children EveryDay.  A lot of it seems basic, mindless in fact but that's just it.  These things are so part of our normal conversations - often with adults, that it's easy to skip over and forget when dealing with children.  

Here's one- "How Are You?"  Literally, how often do you ask your littles that? Seems like a decent start to any conversation but when your day begins before the sun rises, it's easy to forget.  So, check out the list below and hopefully we can find a way to incorporate a few into our daily routines.  Perhaps this will help "our generation" raise kind and adjusted children...even IF we work long hours :)

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1. Eat something healthy with your snack. Because let’s face it, not all snacks are healthy. Dr. Katharine Kersey, professor of early childhood education at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, Va., suggests reminding kids that we all need to eat healthy so our bodies will be strong.

2. Tell me one good thing that happened today. Focusing on the positive helps keep the bad stuff at bay.

3. Tell me one bad thing that happened today. It’s important to talk about the bad stuff too.

4. I’m proud of you for doing XYZ. Something about a kiddo hearing someone is proud of them has a big impact. Think of one positive thing and tell your little one about it.

5. How are you? Asking your kiddo how she feels shows that you are interested in them. Brandi Russell, pediatric occupational therapist and parenting coach, recommends checking in with your little ones just as you would a spouse or friend.

6. What would you do? This is a great response to kids always asking for help with things. Empower them while giving yourself a break.

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7. What nice thing did you do or say today? Encourage kindness by reinforcing it daily.

8. Nothing will change my love for you. This phrase may seem self-evident, but sometimes kids need you to state the obvious. Rebecca Eans, bestselling author and founder of positive-parents.org, believes you can’t go wrong with this loving reminder.

9. I like it when you … Even when the kids are driving you crazy, there’s always at least one thing they did that made you smile.

10. I like you. Kids may hear the words “I love you” on a regular basis, but do they know you like them too?

11. Please. If we want respect as parents, then we need to show that same behavior to our kids. Dr. John DeGarmo, a national foster parent coach, advocates parents should always say “please” and “thank you” to to model respectful behavior.

12. Clean up your toys, dishes, or whatever is left out. Encourage kids to take ownership for cleaning up their belongings, said Maureen Healy, author of Growing Happy Kids. Even if it’s just one or two items a day, it will help you in the long run.

13. That’s smart thinking. Sometimes hearing you’re smart is even more powerful than telling a kid they look cute.

14. Don’t let mean people define who you are. There will always be bullies in life. This simple phrase helps kids know the negative voices are not the most important.

15. I’m proud of you. They know you love them. But do they know you’re proud of them too? Dr. Sherrie Campbell, clinical psychologist and author, believes those words are just as important as affirmations of love to kids.

16. Thank you. Social skills and courtesy are important in the home and outside of it.

17. I’m sorry. We all lose our temper or make mistakes. Dr. Alison Mitzner, a pediatric specialist, believes what’s important is how we react.

18. Just be yourself. Teach your kids they’re enough, and they never have to be anyone else.

19. Do your best. It’s not about the result. It’s about how you get there.

20. Always tell the truth, even if it’s not great. The sooner kids know you’ll still love them after hearing the truth—even if it’s not great—the more truthful they’ll be as they grow.

21. I’m listening. What do you want to say? According to Katie Hurley, LCSW, 57% of girls say they don’t always tell their parents certain things about them because they don’t want them to think badly of them. Show your kids you do care what they have to say by demonstrating you want to listen to them share information with you.

22. You don’t have to eat it. It’s tough to deal with picky eaters. Instead of fighting with your kids to eat their veggies, give them the power to say no and be in control. But don’t provide an alternative meal choice or dessert either.

23. I love being with you. Amy McCready is a parenting educator who believes encouraging words and phrases go a long way to help your kids feel safe and secure. Telling your little one how you love being with them is a great positive affirmation they’ll never tire of hearing.

24. You make me happy. Because everyone wants to feel like they matter to someone else.

25. I love you. They may be simple, but Jennifer Wolf, a PCI certified parent coach, believes there’s really no substitute for these powerful words.

— Leah R. Singer

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NEWEST STROLLER OBSESH...

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Picking a stroller is like finding a man.  So many out there but tough to score the right one.  Well mamas look no further, we've discovered a new baby ride that you'll def want to spend the rest of your life with.  It's by UPPAbaby, called MINU (pronounced "min-you") and it's everything you look for in a ride-or-die.

Here's what sold us:

1. Easily collapsable. literally you can push a button with your left hand while holding your babe in the right. Voila! 

2. 14 Pounder.  Ok I know all you Super Moms out there think that's nothing -- but that's just it, it's NOTHING -- no lugging, dragging, chucking with this one.  It's quick, easy and no problem to "throw" in the trunk

3. Use/Re-Use.  Minu is suitable for babies 3-months old all the way to 50 pounds.  You can pass around amongst your kids.

4. Lay Flat.  That's like asking if I want to travel coach or first-class?  This stroller is super lux offering the option to recline all the way.

5. Storage.  Under the seat, there's a sizable space for bringing along stuff since all moms have lots of STUFF.  Snacks, diapers, wipes, keys, purses, makeup, whatever you want.

For more info -  check out my Instagram TV Review @adriannacosta or click here to hear from the masterminds behind the Minu:

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AN INSIDERS GUIDE TO LEGOLAND (THANK US LATER :)

ARRIVE 

Bright and early to beat the summer heat and crowds.  Park opens 9am.

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WEAR

Layers for easy changes throughout the day.  Light colors to keep cool.

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Snacks, Sunblock, Diapers, Milk, Water, Hats, Bandaids, Change Of Clothes...Think of what you'd bring to a deserted island for 24 hours.  Pack that...and then a little libation for you.

RIDE

FOR US, LEGO TECHNIC COASTER

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For Them

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EAT

Banh Mi at Ninja Kitchen or garden-fresh, organic fare at The Garden Deli + Cafe.  More Weho less Lego.  

SPLURGE ON

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TRAVELING WITH TOTS: A HAUTE MOM'S GUIDE TO MAKING EVERY TRIP TEAR-FREE

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It's 4th of July which means you're probably on a plane to some exotic island with your honey, laying out, cocktails, cool breeze, not a care in the world.  Okay, now let's get real...you're making way through a crowded, stressful security line, en route to your mother-in-law's in Boca, two tots-in-tow screaming and yelling, luggage falling all over the place and your husband rolling his eyes at you in complete disapproval of your "incompetence".  

Travel can be so traumatic causing serious anxiety, for us, them and the pissed-off people around us.  Here at Haute Mom's Life, we've surveyed moms in our community, celebrities and experts and have compiled a list...highlighting the best of the best on how you can make it through those long, treacherous days of planes, trains and automobiles -- Tear Free.  Note to Self- mini Titos = a must for every adult.

Click the link below for a full roundup and if you don't have the time, here's a list.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1t-x9p8FUNTOiydjsOcuKzeYx02rfqAio/view

MOMS AND MERLOT: HOW TO CONQUER WINE COUNTRY IN 24 HOURS

A group text was in full swing with four of my closest mommy friends.  I glanced down at the phone 2 minutes into the conversation -- 75 UNREAD TEXT MESSAGES!!!  Did someone break a nail, forget pickup, dare I say, miss yoga? 

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At closer look, it was none of that- rather a GIF with Honey Boo Boo doing the rump shake followed by rows of red wine glasses, cocktail emojis, giant smiley faces, clapping hands and prayer symbols.  It appeared these moms were cooking up something fabulous and I wanted in.  

They decided it was high time to leave our hubbies at home with the kiddos and take off for a well-deserved night to Solvang, a quaint little Danish Villiage just about 125 miles up the coast from LA located in the Santa Ynez valley.  The town is known for it's top-notch wineries, cute little bars and restaurants, charming boutiques and shops...but REALLY the wine.  And that's REALLY up our alley.  The trip was set, itinerary stacked -- and mission to be completed within 24 hours. 

The drive up the coast was beautiful, the conversation -endless and laughs -- straight from the belly.  The second we arrived at our hotel, we were in heaven.  Car doors open and POP!!! - Sparkling wine's a flowing! 

The Landsby billed as the newest and most innovative hotel in the area is 50-room boutique hotel that offers warm hospitality and refined, stylish accommodations.  It's super hip and in the heart of town which makes getting around pretty seamless.  High-season requires a two-night minimum stay and rates for two queens are very fair, especially when breaking it down between four people.  Check it out https://thelandsby.com 

We booked an (un)fortunate Uber driver to stick with us all day so that made getting around super easy - and fun.  Ultimately, he became a friend and someone we'll call on every time we go back.  

Now, don't ask me how, but we managed to pack 3 wineries in one afternoon.  I'd suggest shooting for no more than 2.  Here are my recommendations -- start with Bridlewood BridlewoodEstateWinery.com end with Demetria demetriaestate.com 

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Bridlewood

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Bridlewood has the most gorgeous grounds, delicious wines and HUNKY employees which makes a tasting with four GIDDY, married women pretty damn hilarious.  Demetria is totally off the beaten path - takes about 30 minutes on remote dirt roads to get there (hang on to those barf bags) but the views once you arrive make it all worth it.  The wine is spectacular with a "Wait are we in Provence?!" setting to match.  An absolute MUST!

As day turned to night, we also regressed back into college kids so the idea of sitting down for an adult meal wasn't exactly appealing.  Instead, we stuffed our faces with apps at the hotel bar.  It was lively and vibey.  After a quick costume change - the four of us sauntered out in slo-mo (only in our minds) and we were off...ready to turn the sleepy town of Solvang upside down.

Maverick was where we were directed and it was honky tonk magic Maverick Saloon  A complete throwback saloon with live country music and one helluva rowdy crowd, initiated by us, the four Jewish, suburban moms...obviously.  We switched from wine to whisky -- and let's just say, our night wrapped around 1am in giggly uber ride home.

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The next morning like clockwork, we all popped up as if we were expecting our children to bulldoze through the door yelling at the top of their lungs about who knows what.  It was 8am and we figured it was perfect time to get dressed, grab a quick bite, and jump in the car.  I won't confirm or deny whether there was a little rose left on the nightstand that was being guzzled straight from the bottle as we were packing up to leave.  

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HANGOVER CURE

 

Paula's Pancake House  http://www.paulaspancakehouse.com made our empty tummies and shakey brains much much better.  They whipped up eggs-to-order, fresh fruit, toast (loads of it) and strong-ass coffee.  In no time and we were OFF.  Back down the coast and to our respective homes.

I can honestly say, 24 hours was just the right amount of time.  We did, we saw, we drank, we conquered.  AND bonded...I mean really bonded.

 

INSIDER TIP:

What To Pack: floral dresses, casual rompers, booties, wedges, sneakers (no heels) Hats, layers, fanny-packs, cross-body bags, IDs, snacks, sunblock.  Less is more.  Only pack what you really need.  Meaning, plan your outfits ahead of time so there's no thinking involved when you arrive.  Because let's face it, there will be no thinking, only drinking :) Bottoms up!