UNICON

unicon.png

Ladies, join us for a day of stories, laughter, parenting tips and community with some incredible women at UNICON.  It's like ComicCon ya know...but actually not at all.  

I'll be speaking on the panel and if you're really REALLY lucky - I'll tell ya who Unicon Founder, Maria and I have a serious crush on!!!  Hint- He may have delivered our babies.

Get your tix here :)    https://www.eventbrite.com/e/unicon-2017-tickets-35364696760

 

THANK YOU SHARON!

Mommies - I have to introduce you to my latest greatest (guilt-free) obsession #NotAnAd Holy Torah :)  It's called Sharon's Sorbet and it's effing GENIUS!  The flavors range from coconut to lemon, coffee and my absolute FAVORITE - the Deutch Chocolate Sorbet.  Chocolate sorbet??  It exists!  And to boot- the flavors are all natural, dairy free, and sooooo not bad for you.  To give you an idea- for a half cup of the chocolate or coconut, you're looking at around 140 calories, and 4ish grams of fat.  And I swear it totally cuts the craving to indulge in something sweet and decadent.  Thank you Sharon!  Sold at Whole Foods, Gelsons and I'm sure several other specialty stores or you can get in touch directly below.   

email....  pksorbet@yahoo.com

TEL.  212-925-1444  

PO BOX 63H 

SCARSDALE,  N.Y.  10583

#MommyMondays

Mondays used to be my most-dreaded day of the week...until it became my FAVORITE.  After a long weekend catering to the little ones- cooking, cleaning, spit-ups, slip ups, this errand, that birthday (oh don't even get me started) I've turned Monday into MY day.  At least some of it.  I still cart one to and from camp and the other from room to room finding some new inspirational spot to feed this extra hungry (now mobile) baby girl but I make sure after a long kiddy-filled overloaded weekend that I take time for myself.  CorePowerYoga.com followed by a nice long warm shower leads to a bunch of random phones calls...with friends without the prying eye of my husband judging how much I'm on the phone.  Something he considers a waste of time and I bill necessary for my sanity.  

Sometimes I'll throw in a lunch sesh with other mommy friends - perhaps a wax, massage (can you f-ing believe it?) Oh and get this-  I may even Netflix and Chill...by...my...self while the lil ones are passed out.  Wait, that came out wrong but anywhoo...whatever your situation may be, please take time for yourselves.  Enlist a friend, neighbor, mommy's helper, family member, nanny - ANYONE - to give you some much deserved rest and relaxation.  

Editors Note:  Disregard all feelings of guilt.  Remember, oxygen mask - right - oxygen mask :)

Is Breast Really Best?

My honest opinion?? Yes AND No.  We can all admit the incredible health benefits of breastfeeding.  To refresh our mommy memories, according to Web MD - "Breast milk contains antibodies that help your baby fight off viruses and bacteria. Breastfeeding lowers your baby's risk of having asthma or allergies. Plus, babies who are breastfed exclusively for the first 6 months, without any formula, have fewer ear infectionsrespiratory illnesses, and bouts of diarrhea."  But why did my baby end up in the hospital for 72 hours at 2 months fighting off the horrifying illness RSV?  She was exclusively breastfed.  Why did I feel crazy panicked every time I would start to feed her?  Why did I lose sleep at night wondering if she was getting enough nourishment...and why do I still to this day walk around with massive, lumpy, veiny, inappropriately (un)covered tatas??  Well for one, I can tell you that sure breast milk does protect our lil ones from A LOT but that doesn't mean they're immune from EVERYTHING.  And Sonnet ended up in the hospital because we have a snotty, little toddler running around the house spreading germs like wildfire - something breastmilk unfortunately couldn't protect from in our case.  And regarding those nasty feelings of depression, anxiety and homesickness during breastmilk let-down? Well, according to Web MD it's actually a physiological response (not a psychological response) that appears to be tied to a sudden decrease in the brain chemical dopamine.  Sorta like the last time you took ecstasy?  Oh come on, we've all been there.  And the lumpy boobs and lack of sleep - Well, we make those exceptions simply for the good of our children, right?? Right :).  

I have several girlfriends who said hell no to breastfeeding from day one.  They wrapped up their boobs, covered them with cold cabbage (yep, it works to slow down milk production and soothe throbbing breasts) and immediately introduced their babes to the bottle.  There's a ton of judgement from the prying eye of mothers and non-mothers alike.  "Wow she's selfish...can't even feed her baby...lame, lazy, pathetic..." Even if you don't hear it, you know 'they're' thinking it."  But why???  In my opinion, your baby's only as good as mama is and if mama ain't happy then no one is.  And that's when things, as an exclusively breastfeeding mama, got REAL real.  While all my friends were traveling, dining, enjoying time to themselves, I was BREASTFEEDING...morning, noon, night and in between.  Why?  Well the lil one got so attached to the breast (can ya blame her) that she refused to take any sort of bottle.  I tried literally everything from budget to big-ticket...not a damn thing worked.  Gerber, Comotomo, Dr. Browns, Mimijumi, thanks for the gadgets guys but Sonnet wouldn't settle.  Finally and I do mean after a month of pulling out my now grey hair, she got to the point of being hungry enough to take the "OG" of all bottles- The Enfamil Slow-Flow Nipple handed out at the hospital when your babe is delivered https://www.amazon.com/Mead-Johnson-Nutritional-Group-Slow-Flow/dp/B00I3Y5EY2 Thank Gawd because I was off to Cabo sans kids for a trip to "reconnect" with my hubs. 

Speaking of which, he really hated me by this point.  So did my 3-year old son who, if you're wondering, was breastfed until 11 months.  They both felt totally neglected because I spent an inordinate amount of time huddled up in Sonnet's room hoping and praying she'd have a good feeding.   I spent so many stinkin hours and so much energy miserable, exhausted, suffering from postpartum and the whole time waiting for the days to pass.  I remember saying, "At 3 months this will be so much easier...okay maybe 6 months...oh what the hell it's NEVER getting better.  Maybe I'm just not cut out for breastfeeding this time around." And just like that I woke up one morning and Sonnet was 9 months And I'm STILL breastfeeding! The irony is, just when you feel like you can't handle one more second of it, it actually gets easier, and believe it or not, becomes enjoyable.  I now look at breastfeeding as bonding time with my boo.  Those horrible feelings of anxiety and depression, replaced with relaxation and joy.  

So while I look back on my own first-hand experience with breastfeeding, I'm here to tell you...not as a doctor, or a lactation consultant, but as a mother...nobody other than you has the answer to whether breast is best.  The truth is, it's a very individual, personal decision.  The truth is, don't judge yourself and don't for one second let others judge you because what you'll find is that breast is best, ONLY if it's best for you!